For my 妹妹 - Learn To Be Happy
How and why do our life experiences affect the way we think and feel, how we become sad or happy?
Are human beings born to be miserable?
No - We are born to evolve through experiences. We are born to learn through life experiences. There is no doubt that we all have a big variety of situations or experiences during our existence that we allow to affect the way we think and therefore the way we feel. There are people, objects and intangibles things that we meet and they become part of our life and therefore our life experiences.
We all make choices, every day, every moment. The reason we are happy or unhappy is not our experiences but the way we deal with our experiences; what we think about them, therefore the attitude we take to deal with them. Everything we do either makes us successful or unsuccessful, moves us forward or backward.
Being miserable or happy is a matter of choice. This choice has to do with the attitude each of us has. Things are the way they are, they cannot be otherwise. The problem starts when we label our experiences with our own attitude. Our attitude is the outcome of how we feel and how we will respond. Sadly and ironically, many of us build such an attitude that instead of solving the problems we already have, we create even more problems.
So, what we can do to be happy? How can move forward instead of backward?First we have to consider cause and effect. Our mind stores our experiences as thoughts, thoughts create feelings or emotions, and what we feel is the way we act. Our attitude is a reaction to our thoughts, feelings and actions. It is positive or negative based not on what we think, but how we think, and how we think is related to our level of awareness.
So, the roots of our emotions are in our thoughts; how we think about things. When we have negative thoughts, we are creating unhappiness in our lives and if it's something that we don't want for our life, it is time to take control and put our brain to work to form a new attitude by creating new positive thoughts.
You will only be happy, move forward, be the champion you are meant to be when you are honest and take action. Start to motivate your mind with positive thoughts. Start with thoughts of love, optimism, and creativity. Start by appreciating and valuing every second of life, everything you are and have, and become passionate about everything you do.
Regardless of what happens, paint your life, daily, with a smile in everything you experience. The more you do this, the happier you will become.
Move with the flow. Things are the way they are, they cannot be otherwise. If you row in the direction the river is flowing, its energy assists you. But, if you row against the river's flow, it is only a matter of time before you become exhausted, overwhelmed and defeated.
It is important to be clear; to understand that happiness is not dependent on the outside world. Nobody can make you happy or unhappy. You take charge of your life. You and only you have the power to control the way you feel. When your desire to be happy becomes as strong as the need to breathe, you will be happy. If you want to be happy, make happiness part of your daily thoughts, emotions and actions.
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